The following is an excerpt from Living with Cancer , Chapter 9
All patients need partners during medical care
You can go to the dentist by yourself. You may not look forward to the experience, but it's over before the Novocain wears off, and you get a new toothbrush.
A cancer patient should not go to any part of the examination, testing or treatment processes alone. The reasons abound. Here are a few:
The patient is really sick, and probably weaker than usual. Help on the trip to and from may be more than a luxury.
A cancer patient can be made sicker by being required to exert beyond a reasonable level. Help should not be considered optional, even if the patient protests.
A potentially fatal disease will be discussed. A little loving support matters.
Two people need to listen to what is said, to be sure that all the information is retained and that none of it is distorted or misunderstood. In those cases when there is really bad news, it is vital that a partner be there to continue careful listening, after the patient's ears have started to ring and heart begins to pound.
Examinations and treatments go better with pleasant company.
Sometimes medications have to be administered that make it dangerous for the patient to travel alone. These treatments and their effects are not always predictable in advance. Having a partner there is smart insurance.
Sometimes the partner can take care of business office matters while the patient is in treatment. This lifts another burden from the patient.
Later, a meal, a laugh, a movie, with a friend, takes some of the curse off a rotten, maybe painful day.
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